You’re Not a Bad Mom...Here’s Why!

WE ALL GET TIRED.

As a mom, we’re consistently putting someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of our own and it’s definitely a sacrifice.  

It can get tiring.  

It’s days that blend together and we don’t remember which day we did what.  

It’s night-time rituals that seem to last for years.  It’s finding new routines every time a new little one is added to the family.    

We ALL get tired.   When we’re tired, it’s EASY to start believing the lie that we’re a bad mom.

YOU’RE NOT A BAD MOM...YOU’RE A GOOD MOM HAVING A BAD DAY.   

Every mom has their own battles and hard times.  Don’t get down because you’re having them.  

Tomorrow will be a better day.  

One bad day is NOT the sum of the days you have with your children.  

Your children will remember the good days. Pick yourself up and remember that this is just a MOMENT in a long journey.

otherhood is hard and can sometimes feel VERY overwhelming, but there is GREAT joy to be found both in the valleys and on the mountain tops.  

WE ALL FAIL - MANY, MANY times we fail!

But the good news is that we can get back up again and do better.  

The good news is that we can model Godly repentance to our children.  

When our children see us fail, lose our temper, or give in to a bad attitude,  we can repent to them and let them see us repent to God and ask for more grace.  

Repentance is a humbling thing!  But, we have the opportunity to show our children that MOMMY is a sinner too and she needs forgiveness from a Saviour who is ready and willing to forgive sinners. 

The Lord is full of grace and is glorified by us admitting our failures.  

Our children will learn true repentance through us!

Lamentations 3:21-23 “ This I recall to my mind, therefore have I hope. It is of the Lord’s mercies that we are not consumed, because his compassions they fail not.  They are new EVERY morning: great is thy faithfulness.”  

Our failures can truly be a display of God’s grace to our children. 

YOU MAY NOT BE STRONG ENOUGH TO HANDLE EVERYTHING THAT LIFE THROW AT YOU - but guess what?  “His grace is SUFFICIENT!”

When we feel like we are not enough, we can trust that HE will make up the difference.   

When we do OUR best, we can trust that God will help to complete the process.  

If we think that we can come up with the strength that we need to do this mom thing all on our own, then we are gravely mistaken.  We NEED God’s help. 

2 Corinthians 12:9 says, “My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness.”  

Have you ever seen your weaknesses through your children?

I TRULY  believe that Motherhood is a learning tool from God just to help us SEE our weaknesses.   We tend to see ourselves in our children.

We can choose to learn from those things or let them be repeated.  When we see those weaknesses in our children and ourselves, let’s work on them WITH our children and grow together. 

NONE OF US ARE PERFECT - even tho it seems that way on social media.

Social media is NOT the way to determine what “successful mothering” looks Iike.

Social media can be a place where you fall into the “comparison trap”.  

What you don’t see on social media ..the messy rooms in the house that are NOT in the picture, 

the pile of laundry that hasn’t been done yet because the baby has been fussy all day, 

the empty fridge because there hasn’t been time to go to the store yet, the mom who hasn’t gotten a shower yet today because she’s exhausted after the toddler being up all night...you DON’T see the real picture all the time.   

DON’T COMPARE YOURSELF TO ANYONE ELSE - especially on social media. 

Your success as a mom isn’t found in keeping up with the cutest Pinterest trends and fashions, posting every little thing your child does, or trying to be like someone else.  

Your success as a mom is found in faithfully following the standard that God has set for you in his Word.    

IT’S OK TO CALL IT A DAY and try again tomorrow.  

Some days are just “get through the day” kinds of days.   If you’re in the middle of something or trying to teach your children something and it’s just “not working”??  Call it a day.  Put it away and TRY AGAIN tomorrow.  

It’s ok to take a break!

I DON’T HAVE TIME TO TAKE CARE OF ME - 

If you don’t first take care of yourself then you will NOT be able to take care of others.  

Even moms need a little time to themselves.  

Leave the children home with dad for a few hours or ask a good friend to help you and get out of the house for awhile - go to lunch/dinner by yourself or with a friend, go to the mall for awhile, go sit at the park and read and enjoy nature! 

GIVE YOURSELF some time to be alone once in a while. 

You need to relax and rejuvenate!

When you come back home you will feel more rested and relaxed - you will feel like a better mom!

JUST THE FACT THAT YOU HAVE THE FEELING THAT YOU MIGHT BE A BAD MOM MEANS THAT YOU CARE!  

You are a loving mom and YOU are the perfect mom for your children.    

Author - Amanda Townes